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Parenting Little Kids with Big Feelings

Calming Anxiety in Motherhood

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⬇️Post a ❤️ below for more reparenting con

⬇️Post a ❤️ below for more reparenting content!

✨If your parent didn’t advocate for you, didn’t help you get out of the abuse, participated in hiding the abuse from the other parent, gaslight you and/or more it can be very hard to process these emotions as you work through your past.

When you are processing a traumatic or abusive childhood often you’ll hear about feeling resentment and anger towards the parent who was the abuser. This is common and often very challenging as you process these emotions.⠀
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⚡️What is not as commonly talked about though is the anger you may feel towards the parent who was passive in the abuse (if this is relevant to your situation).⠀

✨Even though you may be able to hold compassion for this parent and the hurt they may also have been experiencing, it still can be difficult. It can be ok to feel both.
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⚡️As you parent your own littles it can certainly trigger memories and feelings from your own childhood. ⠀
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🥰If you are doing this work we want you to know we see you. We suggest doing this alongside a therapist when possible to help you process these very challenging experiences.
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✨When you start feeling your mind being pulled back to “little you” that is hurting and not feeling safe a helpful grounding tool can be saying to yourself: ⠀
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I am safe.⠀
I am _____ years old.⠀
I am standing in my kitchen.⠀
I have control and am safe.⠀
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⚡️When you are doing this work of reparenting it can be helpful to remember that it’s ok to take breaks from reflecting. It’s ok to go to therapy. It’s ok to set boundaries maybe even for the first time with family members as you process these things. ⠀
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➕Check out the slides for more ideas on helping you parent through your past!!⠀
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⚡️⚡️We also cover this in much more detail in our parenting course “Parenting Little Kids With Big Feelings”. Listen to the “Reparenting” lesson for more. ❤️⠀

Sleep deprivation can be a really tough part of pa

Sleep deprivation can be a really tough part of parenting. At times, it can truly feel like torture. ❤️
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I’ve received many messages from those of you in the thick of it lately and wanted to provide some encouragement through resharing a post that I’ve personally come back to many times.
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🌝 These are lines that are really helping me with sleep deprivation and I hope they can be encouraging to you as well.⠀

➕Take a deep breath.
➕Place your hand on your heart.
🗣Breathe again.
➕Notice your body relaxing and remind yourself:

⚡️ You will sleep again even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.⠀

🌙 Even if I can’t sleep I can rest.

✨I will be ok even if I don’t sleep well tonight.

⚡️This is temporary.
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🌙 If you are able, would you write a word of encouragement for the tired parents here that don’t have the help they normally would to get some sleep? Just an “I’ve been there” or “You aren’t alone” can mean so much.
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Now more than ever we need eachother. We need to share experiences to know that we aren’t alone in parenthood.

Also, if you are a tired parent post a ❤️ below! Want to show you that you aren’t alone!⠀
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Drop a ❤️ below for more on impulse control!!

Drop a ❤️ below for more on impulse control!!

I remember when my daughter was a young tot who had a hard time with impulse control. We would go into a store and her impulses would completely take over her brain and she would not be able to stop herself from touching everything she saw in the store. ⠀
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Her hands would be out of her control and before long something was broken or we would need to leave the store. ⠀
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💡 In getting curious about how I could collaborate to teach her new ways to control these impulses, I remembered something I did with some of the kiddos I worked with in a school setting. ⠀
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⚡️ When they would have trouble with their impulses in the emotional regulation groups I would lead, we would practice starting and stopping their body through games. As I’ve mentioned before, 🌿play is so powerful🌿.
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Games like Freeze Tag, Simon Says, and Duck Duck Goose help kids start and stop their bodies in fun ways so they can practice their impulse control in a safe and controlled setting. ⠀
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You can even playfully use this same language when you are in a place like the mall or somewhere else where a child needs to stop, to help them with their very natural impulse to touch all the things. ⠀
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If siblings are really struggling with not touching each other’s toys or keeping their hands off the new baby, you can use this tool with them as well! ⠀
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All the games I listed here can be fun to use with our kids to help practice impulse control in a way that is fun and also as a added bonus promotes more ❤️connection ❤️ time with you, building your relationship with fun quality time together.
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This is one small piece of the puzzle. Keep a posture of curiosity and compassion towards yourself and your child in these moments as you tune into your child’s behaviour.
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⚡️ Grab our parenting course and read the “power struggle bonus lesson” for more on this topic!